Today's Women of Age

It’s not uncommon for seniors to move, typically to downsize to a more manageable living situation or a gentler climate. And I get that. It makes sense. But my husband longs to move for a “fresh start” and I’m not so keen on that.

First the back story–my husband and I have lived in a small one-story house for over 30 years. It has never been our dream house (I still long for a porch, a laundry room and a pantry!) but it’s cute with a wild cottage garden. And it’s home. This is where our daughters were conceived and raised. This is where countless meals were made and eaten and holidays celebrated. It’s where we’ve fought and cried and made up.

And while it sounds mildly exciting to move somewhere new, the reality for me would be a nightmare. I have good friends here. Good neighbors. A delightful church family. And most importantly our daughters live just four miles away and we see them weekly. They are my heart.

Starting over and trying to make new friends and connections in a different part of the country sounds exhausting and lonely and discombobulating.

I know people do it all the time and for many it turns out fine. A few years ago my friend Lisa moved across country to be within driving distance of remaining family members. She and her husband have made new friends and are getting involved in their new community and it’s been a positive experience.

But that’s not true for everybody.

In the end I don’t think my husband would be happy either once the novelty wore off and the new-and-improved house starting showing some warts which all houses do. So, for now, we’re staying put!

But if you are considering moving there are questions that should be answered first:

• Is there adequate health care nearby? Smaller, more rural communities can be health-care deserts.
• What’s the weather year round?
• Does the area offer the amenities that you enjoy? Good restaurants, museums, nature trails, golf, shopping, etc.
• What’s the tax situation? State, sales, property.
• What’s the cost of housing?
• What’s the political vibe? (It could be challenging moving to an area that has a very different political leaning.)
• What’s the culture of the area?
• What’s the crime rate?

I’d love to hear if you’ve made a move in your senior years and how it’s working for you.